I know I’m too early for the obligatory New year blog/personal goals and life resolutions setting, but this is a little different.
Having my recent blogging hiatus of a month (read a bit about it here), it gave me the opportunity to put a number of things into perspective. Now I have my sh*t together, I felt I wanted to share these thoughts – now personal goals with you. To regauge where I’m headed with myself and this little space of mine and maybe help anyone else along the way.
I’ve heard it said a lot of times over the years.. “you get to a point with age where you start to care less” and many sayings along those lines. Although I do agree – to a degree. I also have to disagree.
Now, I can only comment personally, as prior to writing this, I didn’t conduct any research in questioning other ladies, so I can only ‘speculate’. But, I feel that especially hitting 30 and also having a baby added with being in such a social world, I’ve become MORE aware of myself. What I look like. What I dress like. Where I go, what I do.
So here’s what I’m thinking:
STAY TRUE TO MYSELF –
Comparison/envy/jealousy, although we’re told is fuel to success, sadly it very much, especially in the social world can go the other way and become quite an issue. Just keep doing you. It’s something I say regularly to other people, but a dose I definitely need to take myself. There’s a difference between looking up to people and trying to be them.
Just keep doing you. It’s something I say regularly to other people, but a dose I definitely need to take myself. There’s a difference between looking up to people and trying to be them.
With other things in place, keeping me grounded and settled, I intend to, from personal goals and also blogging perspective, take my time with content. Re-reading. Re-working. Making sure it sounds like me, but the best possible version of me.
INTERACT AND ENGAGE WITH OTHERS –
Now, I feel this is something that I need to work on, that I could definitely do with being more consistent at. Replying to comments on my blog and Instagram is one thing, but also in becoming part of a group/community. I feel I have yet to ‘find my place’, it might be said.
Though my downfall is that I also haven’t invested the time in the group/community to really ‘make’ my place.
So that’s what I intend to do.
POST ONCE A WEEK –
I am/was. One of ‘those’ people. You know. The ones with a ‘schedule’.
Up until my break, my posting schedule was to post twice a week. A general post on a Wednesday and a fashion/outfit post on a Friday. However, my mindset has changed, plus keeping with the above – in producing my best content, I’m going down to one post a week.
This won’t be forever. I’m just with balancing my life out at the moment and I’d much prefer quality over quantity and am sure you would too.
MEMORIES OVER MATERIAL THINGS –
The obsession with material things. I remember, not word for word, but a quote from The Lean Machines’s book and it’s really stuck with me and something that I’ve really been reiterating to myself these last months. It’s along the lines of, ‘If you’re forever chasing a want for material things, you’ll never be happy‘. Basically that if it’s material things you’re aiming for, you’ll always find something to ‘want’ and ‘need’.
What I’m wearing: Rayban Sunglasses, Topshop leather jacket (old), Next bardot style top (sale), Next straight leg jeans, Zara heels (old), Michael Kors bag.
I’m basically taking control of my life again.
My recent post about the change to my morning routine was the start to this. I have been one of those people that say there’s never enough hours in the day etc when it’s actually more about prioritizing and setting specific tasks and knowing what NEEDS to be done over what can wait. But that’s maybe another blog post.
This has had a fabulous impact on my mental health. Having that quiet time in the morning to myself really sets me up for the day. With having a toddler (who’s very much a teenager in the making right now) the day can quickly flip from good to bad and bad to good, so it’s starting as you mean to go on.