Twelve whole months. Twelve whole months since I gave birth to our second/youngest/last child. And twelve whole months we’ve kept him alive, more importantly!
Parenting is definitely based upon winging it. You can read all the books and websites, plus talk to all the professionals and other parents, but no one has a child like yours or your circumstances.
It’s easy to lose yourself once you become a parent. Babies/children, even the most independent need due care and attention. It truly is a life long job. But there comes a time when you have to take back some control from those mini dictators. You have to look after yourself.
Being mum to two boys has been a massive change and also tricky and difficult at times. I miss, in a way, the person I was.
But now he’s one and we have a lot figured out, I felt it was a good time to slowly get myself back on track.
As I’m still losing the baby weight, there’ll be no wardrobe overhaul. However, what I am working towards is a refined but flexible morning and evening routine.
I’ve been reading a lot recently about self-care. Some of my favourite reads are coming up in a future post, so keep an eye out for it, but I’ve basically incorporated a few things I’ve read into my ‘plan’. The trick has been not to set and add too much. As I mentioned, I want it to be flexible, as I’m still slightly (very much) ruled by children!) so I can change it up and adapt it as time goes on.
Have a read, see what you think. Do you have any routines or self-care plans?
- Social shut Off. 830pm. I actually already have an app on my phone that allows you to disarm certain apps from and until certain times. However, you can also override it easily, so I have been doing this. I know. Bad Caroline. But I plan to make a conscious effort to put my phone down at 830pm.
- Bedtime 10pm. Although I’ve actually been back on track with this over the last week before that actually laying down to sleep was anything between 10 pm and 12 am. I can’t even say I was being productive until 12am. And it’s this exact mindless action that I’m wanting to combat. Plus, my mum always said I needed eight hours of sleep and to be honest, she was so right. Going to sleep at 10 pm latest gives me between seven and seven and a half hours, so, I’m good for that.
- Beauty time. I am such a lazy lady. Looking after myself in regards to moisturising, buffing, cleansing, etc doesn’t come easy to me. I actually find it all quite a chore. (I’ve written before about this in regards to not being a beauty blogger.) But, it’s also not for debate and well, I’m not getting any younger and if I want to keep my young looks I really need to take care of them. Moisturising is the main one to me, so I’m going to make a much bigger effort to make sure it becomes a habit after showering.
Wakey wakey. 5 am wake ups and get-ups. It’s become evident, that I have another early riser. Youngest seems to be getting up anywhere between 5 am and 6 am. I plan to set a quiet alarm for myself at 5 am. Thus allowing me time to meditate, write, read and drink a pint of water. Before the youngest was conceived this was very much my morning routine and I thrived from it. Though this will be tweaked as time goes on.
I’m aware that my plan is nothing out of the ordinary and may seem lame and very much common sense, but, that’s the intention. I truly believe if I can master the bedtime and 5 am quiet time, that it will have a profound effect on not only the days ahead but my mental health also.
It’s always about doing the small minor things, that in turn make the biggest effect.